WHEN A TODDLER THROWS A TANTRUM

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WHEN A TODDLER THROWS A TANTRUM

When a child has a tantrum they lose all perspective

On the past, present and future

Of the entirety of their situation

They lose themselves in the experience of protesting

The unfairness of life

They are 100% invested in the physical act of saying "NO"

When an adult throws a tantrum

They too are entirely caught up in the moment

In the act of saying "NO" to the unfairness of life

Life will always be experienced as unfair and actually is unfair

The difference between the child's tantrum and the adult tantrum

Is the escalation of the adult tantrum and the availability of dangerous tools

To cause destruction, mayhem, self-harm or even death

The advantage the adult has is years of experience

To learn how to react to the unfairness of life

In creative, productive, nonviolent ways

They can use each instance of unfairness to grow past

Expectations and rage, until a tantrum becomes a shrug

A sigh, an "oh well" ... and results in no farther harm

We grownups need something better than a tantrum

We need a plan, a good orderly direction

To push back against the unfairness of life

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